Buddies

"What unites us, all of us, surely is brotherhood, a sense that our friendships are historic, designed to hold Stonewall together, " muses one character in Ethan Mordden's "Buddies." This need for friendship, for nonerotic affection, for buddies, shines forth as an American obsession from "Moby-Dick" through "Of Mice and Men" to "The Sting." An American gay life has built upon and cherished these relationships, even as it has dared - perhaps its most startling iconoclasm - to break new ground by combining romance and friendship: one's lover is one's buddy.

This book is about those relationships - mostly gay but some straight and even a few between gays and straights. Here also are fathers and brothers and stories of men in their youth, when rivalry often develops more naturally than alliance. In "Buddies" Mordden continues to map the unstoried wilderness of gay life today.